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 Social Skills and Your Challenging Loved Ones: 10 Tips For Working with Your Own EmotionsRead about "Social Skills and Your Challenging Loved Ones: 10 Tips For Working with Your Own Emotions " on parentingfact.com. This article, "Social Skills and Your Challenging Loved Ones: 10 Tips For Working with Your Own Emotions ", will help you with your questions or concerns. We parentingfact.com, have a large number of updated articles. Please feel free in searching for more information on parentingfact.com. If you have any questions, please contact us.
Keep these tips close to you as a guide where and whenever you are interacting with others. Wait for the magic to show up when you practice them with your children and the very challenging people in your life! 1. Know your feelings - and how strong they may be - before you get into action with your challenging people. 2. Make behavior decisions that you will feel proud of. Your style will be their style. "They" learn by watching you and listening to you. 3. Know what others are feeling. Understand that you may not agree. 4. Find the words to convey your feelings without denying someone else theirs. 5. Seek out the good things in a situation, even if they are microscopic or a real stretch. 6. Be persistent - appropriately! Stay on track. Back off the track when you know you will get nowhere right now. 7. Monitor your impulses. Reflect on your own thinking that won't help in the bigger picture. 8. You may need to withdraw your approval. But in the process don't withdraw the love. 9. Have tools to manage your emotions before you are swept away by them. 10. Think about how you deliver your message. What would you be feeling if you were on the receiving end? Care about the feelings of the other person. It's just the good old golden rule. Refer to and live by these 'process' steps as you work with your challenging people and you will begin to see and feel how much easier it all can be. Ellen Mossman-Glazer M.Ed. is a Life Skills Coach and Behavior Specialist specializing in Asperger Syndrome, High Functioning Autism, ADHD and Learning Difficulties. In her 22 years experience in 'behavioral' special education classrooms and children's treatment settings, working with special needs kids, she has seen the struggle that children have when they feel they don't fit in. Ellen currently works in private practice with children, adults and their families, teaching and coaching them through her program The Art of Behavior Change, giving them the specific steps and tools to thrive. Ellen is the author of two on line e-zines, Emotion Matters and Social Skills Unlimited: The Micro Steps. To subscribe to her ezines and see more about Ellen go to http://www.artofbehaviorchan
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