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Are you ready to cheat to win? Are you those which believe that the end justifies the means and that it is necessary to do everything to win? I am not talking about the use of steroids or any other illegal act. No, I am talking about the small cheating that we make and which, sometimes, seems to be part of the game. Indeed, who never gave a small kick on its golf ball or 'forgot' to count a penalty? Hmmm? Who never pretended a fault in basketball after loosing the ball to influence the referee? Hmmm? I thought about this after a friend spoke to me about a comment his son made to him the other day. His 11 years old son is a goalkeeper in hockey. During a game, there was a tight play close to the goal and the young keeper stopped the puck right on the goal line... at least it is what the referee saw. The other team players believed to have scored but the decision of the referee remained and the game continued. On the way back home, his son acknowledged to him: "You know, dad, the puck had crossed the line." My friend was a little bit disturbed. A side of him said that it is not correct and the other side said that it is part of the game and that it is the duty of the referee to call the shots. However, it is the second side that won. Which side would you have chosen? Personally, I would have also made the same choice. To cheat or, if you like better, to play with the rules, are in fact part of the game... up to a certain limit, of course. And this limit is determined by the judgment of the referees and the interpretation which they make of the rules. Moreover, I am of the opinion that the champions are often the best cheaters. Look for example with hockey, still. Look at the center players who are famous to win their face-offs. They all cheat. They always move too quickly. Sometimes, they get caught by the referee but they get to a point where they succeed in being right on the line of the acceptable one. And this line varies from one referee to another and they have to adjust. One often speaks about experience in these cases... but that remains cheating ;-) And what about those soccer goalkeepers during penalty shots? As parents, how does one have to react? I know that the majority among you would have made the same choice as my friend. How I know it? Notice your reaction when a referee error disadvantages you; you criticize and you protest. But when this same error supports you, not a word ;-) Don't feel bad, it is completely in the human nature to act like this. You cheer for your children. You want them to win because you know that they will be glad to win. And you get carried away. In any event, your child would be the first to complain if you do not react; -) This said, there are limits, you'll agree with me. Fair-play must always be a golden rule in sports and this must be taught to the children. It is the coaches and parents duty to delimit what is acceptable of what is not. As a coach, it happened to me a few times, for example in basketball, to ask one of my players to give the ball to the opponent or to voluntarily throw the ball outside to compensate for an error of the referee. At first, the players and the crowd look at you strangely: "That's it! The coach lost it!" But after thinking, the message is understood. Victory acquired in the code of practice is more appreciated than a victory acquired while cheating... even if one can allow some irregularities in the excitement of the game ;-) Mario Campeau
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